January 18, 2004
Sisterly lunch
Layli and I went out to lunch last weekend, just us two. This was quite an extraordinary event because we both have small children that don't want to be left behind when mommy goes somewhere. Amazingly, our children were with their respective fathers at the same time and we ventured to Blind Faith Cafe, a slick vegetarian restaurant in Evanston. We both had to take a few minutes to remember how to be ourselves without our kids. At first I was confused because there were no distractions and I could actually look around. Then I realized that I could think straight and enjoyed just reflecting on life. I remembered how to have a real conversation about inner struggles and victories. We had a great time and enjoyed food that actually felt good after eating too. Outside the windows, snow fell in flumpy, slow bunches and made everything feel all timeless. Yeah.
I'm really glad you two got to do that. Sounds like it was much needed and appreciated. I been to that restaraunt and really like it too.
P.S. I like the new format and the pictures!
P.S. 2. That Field Guide to Snapping site is noice.
Wow, I feel really shy about communicating this way, but it's so cool. Thank you for sharing. I remembered how it was when Billy and David took our (then) 2 kids to the park for long periods. I always felt akward at first, somehow bare. But then we would talk and laugh from a deep quiet place. These times helped me grow. Thank you.
Posted by: Heidi at January 19, 2004 07:21 PMYou forgot the part in the restaurant where you get absorbed by the actions of other peoples' children. I think there's a direct relationship between the need to spend some time alone without your kids, and the likelihood that the place you go will turn out to be swarming with more.
Posted by: G. David Frye at January 20, 2004 12:55 PMThe wonderful thing about such delightful adventures is . . . the more you do them, the more you remember what to do! Go girls! I am happy to be an adventure supporter, though maybe not for all three grandchildren at the very same time . . . alone, that is. When everyone likes to cuddle in blanket houses and hear stories, that will be a bit of paradise for Nana.
Posted by: Susan Engle at January 20, 2004 07:54 PMThis is so cool! Nice picture! I just want to say I had a great time on our solo outing. It makes me laugh to think of us sitting there worrying we wouldn't have anything to talk about because by the time we were paying the bill we were talking, talking, talking. Way to go with this creative outlet, Hiya. This is so right.
Posted by: Layli Elena at January 20, 2004 08:35 PMThanks Lay and mom. It feels right, especially when you two come to play. I love you.
Posted by: Bahiyyih at January 21, 2004 08:59 PM