"I know nothing stays the same, but if you're willing to play the game, it will be comin' around again." -Carly Simon (I think)
I've got some dear friends leaving town and others planning their move this summer. Changes always take my breath away and make me feel like life is all weird and uncomfortable. And you can't really replace friends like these, even though other dear people have just moved here, and more will be coming soon, and BORN SOON. It just makes it feel more complicated. I know I'm not very good at keeping in touch with people that are far away, though the weblog phenomenon should help quite a bit. I'm really grateful for the time I've spent with these friends, and I know nothing stays the same. I will just have to keep playing the 'game' so these good times can 'come around again'. And they always do, even if it takes awile.
Posted by Bahiyyih at January 11, 2005 04:14 PMDear Bahiyyih-
I know how you feel. I think that this is the first community that I've been reluctant to leave.
Especially when there are NEW Bakers on the way!
I love you very much,
~liz
Posted by: lizzyq at January 13, 2005 02:27 PMBahiyyih, I know exactly what you're talking about here. Although life is changing all the time, I never really had this sort of reaction to change until just recently. I'm wondering for myself why change was so much easier as a kid. It was always exciting and something to be looked forward to, like a new adventure, but the older I get, the more big changes seem to shake my foundation. Maybe that's what it is, that I now have some foundation, some illusion of a stable sense of identity that can be shaken. Do you know what I mean? After I had Amia, for example, I had a couple of dreams that my student ID card was stolen, and when I got it back there was no face in the picture section. It was like in the transition of becoming a mom I wasn't sure who I was for awhile. I feel like this move is doing that to me again in a certain sense. We will miss you guys! (but visit often!)
Posted by: suzanne at January 15, 2005 05:15 AMI couldn't agree more with all of you. By the way, it was Carly Simon.
Posted by: Amy Eades at January 17, 2005 01:20 AMWow, what a dream! That really fits my experience too, after becoming a mom. And it seems especially appropriate that it was your student ID that was lost and missing your picture, since having a baby made me feel like I was in a different world from school and didn't really exist there anymore. And people picking up and moving is the same kind of transition, to me, where your social life changes dramatically. It's strange at first, and you're not sure who's going to help you and be there when you need help, etc. That can be especially hard for mothers of young children because they need that 'village' to be there to call upon for moral support, as well as practical support. I'm glad you already have people where you've moved, and in the area too! We will miss you guys very much too! We've learned SO MUCH from you three and you've been such good friends to us. I hope we can keep learning from you and keeping up with what's going on and visiting when we can.
Posted by: Bahiyyih at January 17, 2005 08:04 AMI'm crying over here. And celebrating all the love floating around. Makes me want to give you a big, but gentle, squeeze, O Bahiyyih.
Love and love again
Posted by: Nana at February 4, 2005 05:49 PM